8 Signs That You’re Ready To Take On The Marriage Life
So you want to get married, huh? You’re probably getting impatient with life and you just can’t wait to get to the next level already. But hold your horses. What you may think of as a dream may turn out to be a complete and total nightmare. Marriage is not all about sweet nothings and fluttering butterflies. It’s a lifelong commitment that requires absolute trust and understanding. If you just want to tie the knot just for the heck of it, then you really shouldn’t. A failed marriage is costly – not to mention traumatizing!
When you do get married, make sure that your heart, soul and body is ready for it. If even one is lacking, then there’s a pretty good chance that your relationship is doomed to fail. Don’t get me wrong; I’m not against marriage – no, not at all. However, I am against people who are merely tranced by their impractical idealization of marriage. The union of two hearts is a very beautiful thing, especially when it has arrived to that point because two people have really made an effort to come to the decision.
Today, I prepared a short checklist of things that I believe are necessary to every successful marriage. If you’re adamant about making your wedding plans come into fruition very soon, then I really suggest going through this list and ticking off boxes that you believe applies to your relationship. Passing score is 60% which means that as long as you’ve experienced 6 out of the 10 signs, you’re good to marry. But don’t be lying to yourself now, okay? Only you can judge your score, after all.
Anyway, here are the top 10 signs that you are ready to get hitched:
- You Can See This Man Existing In Your Future
Real talk: Never ever marry a guy you can’t see living in your future. This is a very simple method. Close your eyes and just visualize. The man who’s marriage material will easily slip into your imagination. It’s not hard to picture him playing with your future kids, making breakfast tacos, marathoning Netflix movies with you on a Sunday, and maybe even help you do laundry on slow mornings.
And here’s the most important part – you don’t feel bad about him being in your future at all. If anything, it makes you happy just dreaming of a future life with him.
- You Can Be Alone But Not Lonely
When you’re boyfriend goes away and you turn out to be this needy 10-year old girl who needs to be carried like a princess, don’t get married yet. Sure, when you tie the knot with someone, it basically means you’ll be spending forever with them. But that doesn’t guarantee that you will be together everyday, you know. You have to learn how to enjoy your own company. You have to love being independent so that when the time comes that your would-be-husband needs to go somewhere for work or business, you won’t be left at home alone – overthinking.
Marriage should not foster dependency. It should be the union of two independent individuals who simply choose to be together because they love each other.
- Him Being There Inspires You To Do Better
That’s right. Your partner should be someone who brings out the best in you – not make you lazy and overly dependent. Having a partner that can do it all is great. It’s also great that he or she can provide for the family. However, if it means losing yourself, morphing your own dreams to theirs, and basically diluting your own aspirations so that it would meet their life plans, then you might want to rethink about getting married.
- You Don’t Second Guess Yourself
This is plain enough: You know you want to get married because you can’t even bear the thought of your partner being anyone else. The man in front of you is the one and that’s it.
- You Can Sleep Comfortably At Night Even If He Hasn’t Come Home Yet
Trust is a very important factor in marriage. Actually, it is what makes marriage meaningful. More than romance, you form a strong bond with this person – an unbreakable force that secures your relationship. Now, if you can’t even last two seconds without thinking about the “worst” that could happen while he’s away then surely, you are not ready for this kind of lifelong commitment.
In order to be able to overcome the usual strains of married life, you have to be able to trust your partner fully. This means not doubting him even he has to work long nights and not pressing him for faults you have no evidence of.
- You Can Support Each Other’s Goals
Before you are a couple, you are both individuals. Both of you have personal goals and aspirations that you would want to works towards and being joined together in matrimony should not be the end of it. Sure, you will start having plans that will include each other. However, that doesn’t mean you have to say goodbye to your own dreams.
- You Respect Each Other’s Spaces
Yep, this is something that should really be observed. You see, people can absolutely love and adore you but still want to be away from you – even just for a while. We all need our personal space, even when we are married. You can’t tie any one person to your hip. In the same way, they can’t tie you. You have to be respectful of personal spheres recognizing a person’s right to it will definitely help you enjoy a smoother relationship with your husband in the future.
- You Can Apologize Even When You Don’t Understand What You Did Wrong
And lastly, rule number 8: Just apologize. What do you mean you can’t? Apologizing should be as easy as breathing when you’re with someone you truly care about. This is because the thought of losing them is scarier than the thought of admitting defeat. You don’t have to win every single argument, you know (even when you’re right).